It’s never okay to hit women.
It just isn’t.
It doesn’t matter if you catch her in bed with the cable TV installer, or if she tells you that she’s been banging a co-worker for the past several years, or if she laughs when you pull down your pants.
YOU CANNOT HIT HER.
She is a fragile creature, borne of inferior strength and muscle mass, and incapable of adequately defending herself against the stronger, more physically imposing sex.
And yes, there ARE exceptions to the latter pontifications, but IT DOESN’T MATTER.
You don’t hit a woman, period.
That’s why I’m so disappointed in Chad “Ochocinco” Johnson, who (allegedly) head-butted wife Evelyn Lozada during a domestic disturbance on Saturday night. The head-butt, strong enough to cause “severe lacerations” according to the Sun-Sentinel, came after Lozada found a receipt for a condom purchase in Johnson’s car.
This contradicts an earlier report from NFL.com that states Johnson found receipt of a condom purchase made by Lozado.
No matter WHO bought the condoms and who was running around on whom, the incident led to a squabble, which led to Johnson (again, allegedly) inflicting physical violence upon Lozado, his wife of one month.
And all of this sucks balls because Johnson was one of the good guys.
No, really.
To the uninitiated, casual NFL observer, Johnson—who once legally changed his name to Chad Ochocinco and then back again—was a brash, egomaniacal ball-player with as much mouth as talent. They knew him from ridiculous celebratory touchdown dances, golden mohawks, outlandish sideline clothing and a willingness to take a fine, all in the name of furthering his brand.
And while this once was completely true, the more observant fan was aware of another side, a side that became more pronounced as the talented wide-receiver’s skills diminished.
The Chad Johnson who ate at IHOP every morning, so much so that the waitresses knew him by name. The same guy who invited random Twitter followers to accompany him to concerts. The same guy who defended his unspectacular wardrobe by explaining that he was too cheap to buy more than one pair of shorts at Urban Outfitters, so his tired, worn camo-cargo pants would just have to do. The same guy who explained time and time again that the necklaces and earrings that he sported—all of his “bling”—was completely fake… He wondered aloud why anyone, especially high-profile individuals would waste money on something so inconsequential.
I liked this Chad Johnson. He was personable and interesting, a refreshing respite from the clichéd athletes who normally clog ESPN headlines and fans’ Twitter feeds. Johnson felt friendly and approachable, and even for the naysayers who assume he was cultivating a persona? He was doing a fine fucking job of it.
Chad Johnson was the antithesis—believe it or not—of every cocky, arrogant, asshole athlete that you ever thought you knew. And as his ability declined, he humbled himself. He took small contracts to play for winners and pushed aside his once gargantuan pride to ensure that he could even set FOOT on the field again, eager to prove that he had something left in the tank.
Whether you realized it or not, he was a reasonable role-model for millions of kids, especially the black ones who learn through a culture of indifference that money, wealth and status are everything.
Unfortunately, Johnson may have fucked all of this up by head-butting his wife in a moment where all judgment was lost.
Evelyn Lozada
I really hope his explanation is true. According to blacksportsonline.com (yep), he “accidentally” head-butted her while the two were “play-fighting.”
His explanation is probably not true.
More than likely, he head-butted her, either because she found out that he’d been having sex with other women, or he found out that she’d been having sex with other men.
Regardless, he’s likely finished.
You can’t hit women, period. And in this modern digital era of instantaneous information, you DEFINITELY can’t do it and expect to live without repercussions. You’d have to be a complete imbecile not to understand this, and unfortunately, apparently, Johnson isn’t quite the intellect that I mistook him to be.
As much as I hate to say it, game over, buddy. I hope you get help and realize that anger and animalistic Chad “Ochocinco instincts are fine on the football field, but nonsense while perpetrating violence across the console of your Prius.
Michael Vick can kill a few dozen dogs, do some time, say some words that were written for him that he probably didn’t understand and it’s all good. Chad will wiggle his way out of this. Sad part is that whoever bought the condoms, (and who in the hell keeps the receipt?) was “ridin’ dirty”. You’d think that either one of them could find some clean strange in the 305.
Yeah, but Vick still had “skills,” and a team willing to take a risk on him. Johnson hasn’t been valuable in some time, so this could very easily mean his end. Not that any of that should matter… they both did scummy things.
The difference is, I don’t think the Vick thing came as much of a surprise– he’d always been a douchebag who was in and out of various levels of trouble. Though Johnson was a bit of an egomaniac earlier in his career, he always did it with a wink and a smile. He seemed like a genuinely good dude.
He’ll be back. Somebody will offer him the league minimum. Plus he gotz four chilren’s he’s gotta take care of. I don’t think Chad is financially healthy enough to ride off into his golden years yet.
And quite honestly I think most wives of NFL players would tell you that If the worst thing that ever happened to them was a head-butt, they’d be thrilled. NFL players are involved in cases of domestic violence and spousal abuse at roughly 12 times the national average for society as a whole. If you break it out by white players versus black players and black and white society then it’s only 2 times the national average for blacks.
Black men are probably only second to Muslim men when it comes to mistreating and abusing females of all ages.
Your dead on the money smartman.
As our Federal Government continues to drag us into a multiculturalistic hell, that over in England and Europe are crippling and destroying the very fabric of thier societies, it is indeed interesting and unfortunately prescient to take note of the rampant, systemic misogyny that is so prevalent in Islamic Countries and Communities here in the US.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2069459/Alarming-number-honour-attacks-UK-police-reveal-thousands-carried-year.html
This example is just one of thousands of articles attesting to the cruelty, torture and abuse of women who are unfortunate enough to be born into the “Relgion of Peace.”
I would be remiss, to not mention the high incidence of African American males, beating and sexually abusing African American women.
http://newsone.com/1680915/half-of-black-girls-sexually-assaulted/
“Domestic violence advocates say black women should be particularly active in writing and calling their congressmen to support the reauthorization of the VAWA because it affects them more than any other racial group. In fact, Black women experience domestic violence at a rate 35 percent higher than white women.”
White women who marry black men are 12 times more likely to be murdered or beaten by their black husbands.
“Abuse: White men and women who choose to date or marry blacks are much more likely to suffer abuse from their partners, particularly spousal homicide.
According to the American Journal of Public Health, a white woman married to a black man is over 12 times as likely to be murdered by her husband as a white woman married to a white man (ncbi.nlm.nih.gov). Even more startling: a white man married to a black woman is 21 times as likely to be murdered by his wife as a white man married to a white woman. Still, the highest risk of death by spousal homicide is incurred by white women married to black men.
Furthermore, murder “is the leading cause of death in the United States among young African American women aged 15 to 45 years and the seventh leading cause of premature death among women overall” (ncbi.nlm.nih.gov). The elevated rate among black women is largely due to black women dating and marrying black men almost exclusively; for example, in 2009, 94% of married black women had black husbands (nytimes.com).”
And…
“We present some statistics relevant to interracial relationships in the United States.
STDs: White men and women who choose to date blacks have a much higher risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease (STD), particularly HIV/AIDS.
According to a 2009 analysis by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), compared to whites, blacks are 9 times as likely to have syphilis, 9 times as likely to have chlamydia, and 21 times as likely to have gonorrhea (www.cdc.gov).
Black men who identify as heterosexual are 15 times as likely to be diagnosed with HIV/AIDS as heterosexual white men, but black men are also more likely to have undiagnosed HIV/AIDS. Black women are 20 times as likely to be diagnosed with HIV/AIDS as white women.
The American Journal of Men’s Health, citing data from the CDC, reports that “1 in 16 Black men in the United States will be infected with HIV in their lifetime” (jmh.sagepub.com).
Furthermore, “the long-standing HIV disparity in Black communities is actually increasing for Black men,” partly because “HIV also affects Blacks at younger ages. Blacks between 20 and 24 years old have the highest rates of HIV. By comparison, the highest rates of HIV occur among Whites and Latinos in the 25- to 49-year age group.”
According to the same article, although blacks make up 13% of the US population (census.gov), black men make up 49% of syphilis cases among men, 53% of chlamydia cases, and 73% of gonorrhea cases. These disparities are similar for black women. Furthermore, 40% of blacks have herpes — twice the white rate.”
Wish I had better news for ya, but our descent into diversity and multiculturalism, looks like a pretty bumpy ride.
I think alot of this goes back to black youth being raised mostly in single parent homes. Most of us learned how men and women are supposed to interact with each other by watching our parents. How is a boy in a home with no male role model going to have as easy of a time learning how to treat women? We can thank our stupid welfare system that rewards women for having children out of wedlock for most of this, in my opinion. Before the Great Society, American black people for the most part came from strong homes and these problems were not as common.
I showed these statistics to my black wife; she just grinned wickedly. Thanks for info, Grand Imperial Wizard Chuck! It brings an edge to the incredible sex I’ll have tonight. It’s true what they say; I’ll never go back!
only chuckie could pull out the stats about
black std’s in relation to whities.
I mean chuckie…you’ve taken this whole
black/white thing to a ridiculous level.
Mostpeople think you’re working for the
center for disease control. Do you really waste your time cutting and pasting these stats for
me/smartman and mikey to read.
Come on chuckie…why the sad pessimistic
tone…you’ve only got a few years to hang in there before the grim reaper comes for you.
Chuckie..it will be okay. The world will be
fine. the sun will come up. You will be happy and
content.
uh…here’s some more stats…
“the american indian has a higher rate of
std versus the alaskan eskimoe and the
pacific islander by a ratio of 15.789%.
Thatcompare with the ratio of std’s found in the
american samoan and east asian-american
population when taken as a whole of the
white american std rates in the city of
tupelo mississippi.
nice chuckie…got any more stats dude??????????
Every married black dude I know acts as if its their God-given right to be unfaithful.
I have often brought this subject up in conversation with a few of my black brothers, and they act like “everybody does it” is all the justification they need.
Well when you have people such as Craig Glazer writing about his actions with women all the time, how he treats them, many thinking it is funny stuff to read and an acceptable way of life how can what Chad Johnson did be all the shocking? In short it’s all about being disrespectful to women and acts that don’t convince me or a vast majority of the public that these are good people who should be worshipped or liked in any way.
A woman is a person not a materialistic object to do with as one wish’s. Just way too many men really have no respect towards woman or control of their manners or temper around them.
According to the ESPN article here, it’s more of a “he said/she said” situation — with Chad stating that his wife head-butted him, causing the cut on her forehead.
That is a good “catch” Lance, not only for you, but mybe the best catch Ocho has made in 5 years.
🙂
The Johsons bobble it, then assess their financial priorites, and, SCORE!!!
Yeah, it’s definitely he said/she said, and perhaps I didn’t stress that confliction enough in the article. Innocent until proven guilty and all that, but this usually turns out one way. (although it IS worth noting that her reputation isn’t exactly sterling, however)
You are right Lefty but the fact remains two adults should be smart enough to know when time out is needed and back off before blows of any kind are made. But will say as I am hearing her type of injuries she was the reciever.
Yes, innocent until proven guilty but from the sounds coming from the peanut gallery and the court of public opinion I guess the verdict is guilty before charged. Let’s let our wonderful judicial system decide this one before we start casting stones, mmmkay?
@rkal.
After that 2 minute marathon, maybe, instead of trying to insult me, you might want to address the veracity of my comments and the articles I posted. Was there erroneous information quoted? Do you have facts that would dispute those quotes?
It’s early, and you probably won’t have much to talk about after cleaning up.
Nah, I’ve never broken 1:30, but I’ll keep practicing. My problem is not with your facts, it’s with your conclusions. Somehow, for you, this is a symptom of “our descent into diversity and multiculturalism”, you know…what used to be called “mongrelism” down South, I reckon. It’s easier and much less complex than discussing the social and economic roots that created and sustains this mess. But, hey, I know how these conversations go here, so drive-by pot-shots are just more fun. Now, where did I put that mop?
The premise is always the same. The conclusions are always the same. MLK, in his I Have A Dream speech, asked for the white man to write some checks. We did, starting with the Great Society Programs to the tune of several trillion dollars and the situation has only gotten worse. 76% out of wedlock births in the black community compared to 20% in 1960, compared to 36% among whites today. We’re it not for the GSA, the money spent on Great Society programs would be be biggest financial boondoggle in US history. As always we are prepared to discuss any facts that are contrary to those presented above.
@rkal
An affective response, based on a spurious reference from my comments on the unambiguated destruction that multiculturalism and diversity are wreaking in the world today, to the Jim Crow, Bull Connor era, liberal wheelhouse. An post hoc argument 50 years dead, now reconstructed and bolstered by a narrative populated with new catch phrases like “Institutional Racism”, “No Justice No Peace” and a litany of talking points mouthed and espoused by the those who live in the culture of complaint as opposed to the culture of achievement.
To facilitate this segue from distant decades to white contemporary guilt, the usual rhetorical weapons, “Racist”, “Imperial Wizard” at the correct decibel, repeated in Goebbels like fashion will, in time, drown out any voice of reason accompanied by the commensurate facts and leave facists the field.
and boom goes the dynamite
“According to the American Journal of Public Health, …. Even more startling: a white man married to a black woman is 21 times as likely to be murdered by his wife as a white man married to a white woman.”
Maybe smarty will sell ya one of his guns.
If Tyson can have a second career after using Robin Givens as a speed bag, then a rape conviction, not to mention ear chawin, threats of eating children and a litany of other fucked the fuck up behavior, then ocho will live this one down. Ocho just needs to get a new shtick. Tyson is now the beloved, mildly retarded, baby voiced,face tatted , sociopath ,doing cameo roles in film and now his own one man off broadway show. Ocho just needs to find his Spike Lee.
I am a prostitute hunter!!!!
I hunt prostitutes for sport!!!!
Oh, not now Spike? Save it for after the interview?
Add unemployment to Chad Johnson’s list of problems — the Miami Dolphins have reportedly cut their star wide receiver
Serves him right.
Chad Johnson still looks good in a Sporting Kansas City uniform. And with his apparent ability to head-butt, I’d sure like to see him on the receiving end of a well-placed cross from one of his teammates (after he’s served a little jail time, of course). The usually sluggish KC offense could really use a man who knows how to use his head (well, literally anyway) when he’s in the box. Besides, he’ll probably need the money to pay some legal bills. This is America, land of the free and home of the Chiefs, where everyone gets a second chance! The charade, er, show must go on! Image is everything! … right?